Asking Friends to be Your Bridesmaid

It’s a special moment when you ask someone to be your bridesmaid. You’re saying, “I value you so much, I want you by my side during one of the most important moments of my life.”

Because it’s such an important question, you want to do it just right. Here are some fun and personal ways to ask your friends and family to be your bridesmaid.

We recommend matching the theme or location of the wedding when you ask. This either gives your friends something to wear or use on the special day, or it will give them a keepsake to remember the occasion.

1. Bottle of Wine
Perfect for: Vineyard Weddings

Wine for Your Bridesmaid

Also perfect for gal pals who like to drink! If you can, use wine from the vineyard where you’ll be tying the knot—it will be a preview of what’s to come. Plus, the weeks leading up to the wedding will be hectic. Use the wine as a promise to spend time with your friends before the wedding—over wine, of course. Custom wine labels are easy to find, for a personal touch.

Bonus Tip: Use the empty wine bottles as place tags for your crew at the reception.

2. Jewelry
Perfect for: Large or Formal Weddings

Details like jewelry and shoes can be important for larger or more formal weddings. So give your bride tribe something to wear at the Big Day when you ask! They can also wear it to the rehearsal dinner and the bridal shower. If you’re less concerned about matching jewelry, give each bridesmaid a slightly different style. This shows that you know your bride tribe well, and makes your request personal.

3. Succulent
Perfect for: Minimalist Weddings

Succulent for Your Bridesmaid

Keep it simple, just like your wedding. Your friends can display it in their homes as a cozy reminder of your friendship. Plus, succulents are a low-maintenance plant, so your friends don’t have to have a green thumb to keep it alive! We recommend boxing your succulent, and pairing it with a candle or tea.

Bonus Tip: Don’t forget to include care instructions for the plants!

4. Spa Box
Perfect for: Holiday Weddings

Show your appreciation and understanding if your wedding is during a holiday weekend—or on a holiday. Most holidays are a chance to take a break and relax. But your bride tribe certainly won’t be doing that! They will be having fun, but the wedding weekend is still a lot of work. Encourage them to take a day of rest before—or after!—your big day. That way, you can give them back a little bit of their holiday.

5. Bathing Suit & Sunglasses
Perfect for: Beach Weddings

There’s no way you’re having a beach wedding and not going swimming at some point! It may not be on the wedding day, but why not the day before? Of course, you’ll need your own bride swimsuit to complete the look. And the sunglasses will come in handy during the wedding. You could have the bridal party wear them down the aisle, or use them as props for the group photos.

6. Personalized Makeup Bag
Perfect for: Your bridesmaid you don’t know well

7 Ways to Ask Someone to be Your Bridesmaid

These are already personalized with their name on it, and you can completely customize the insides, too! You could include nail polish and a manicure set, makeup from their favorite store, or lotion and a scrub. This is an ideal gift if your significant other has a lot of friends in the bridal party, and you don’t know all of them well.

7. Picture Frame Collage
Perfect For: Any Wedding, Any BFF

It doesn’t matter what your theme or friendship is like; a sentimental picture collage is always a winner! If you’ve been friends for a long time, see what old pictures you can find, and include a few.

Bonus Tip: Leave a few spots open, to add wedding photos later!


Whichever gift you choose, take a moment and write a note with it. It doesn’t have to be long or flowery. But let them know how important their friendship is to you, and how much you’d love for them to be your bridesmaid. After all, this important question is all about celebrating your friendship!