Part of wedding planning involves planning the bachelorette or bachelor party…but have you ever thought about cutting the stress in half by planning a joint party? That’s where a co-ed bachelor and bachelorette party comes in. Also known as a Jack and Jill, or Stag and Doe party, it’s a great way to celebrate your upcoming wedding with your friends. 

Bachelor and bachelorette parties were once known to be a last celebration the night before the wedding, and over time they evolved to weekend-getaways with your girl friends or guy friends, celebrating your upcoming nuptials but also the friendships you’ve made!

By combining parties, you’re going to have the opportunity for people to meet before the wedding and have that much more fun on your big day.  There are many reasons to throw a combined party, and the number one is to join festivities and friends. Whether you want to celebrate over a single night or a long weekend, let’s check out some Stag and Doe activities!

One Night Stag and Doe Activities

These are some great Stag and Doe activities that you can celebrate in your hometown or the night before a destination wedding.

Karaoke Night 

Crown a king or queen of singing with a karaoke competition! Make a set list of songs by famous duos like Sonny and Cher and have people pair off. Some favorites include “I Got You Babe,” “Endless Love,” “A Whole New World,” and “Don’t Go Breaking My Heart.”

Backyard BBQ 

Host a good old fashioned barbeque in the backyard – make it a potluck or maybe a grill-off! Add some yard games like corn hole, croquet, and horseshoes. You can also make it a themed barbeque and have your guests dress up!

Dinner Cruise Activities
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Dinner Cruise

Live near water? Take a dinner cruise with all of your friends before you love birds set sail into married life. 

Bar crawl 

For on-the-go couples, try a bar crawl. You’ll be able to go to all the favorite spots around town. Make it an interesting night by adding bar-crawl-bingo. 

Concert activity
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Concert / Festival 

Is your favorite band coming to town? Make it a night to remember by sharing your favorite music with all of your friends. 

Wine tasting

For a laid-back and elegant afternoon, take your friends wine tasting! Or, if you’re more of a spirit fan, try going to a distillery and doing a whiskey tasting. 

Bonfire Night
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Bonfire night

Stay cozy together by hosting a bonfire night. Roast hot dogs and s’mores over the fire and stargaze. Share your favorite memories of your friendships and the adventures you hope to have as a new married couple.

Scavenger hunt or game night

If you’ve got competitive friends, then consider setting up an epic game night or scavenger hunt. You can break into teams and whoever completes the hunt first or wins the most board games gets a prize. 

Roller Coaster
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Amusement Park 

For the kids-at-heart and adventure junkies, spend the day at your favorite amusement park. We recommend getting matching t-shirts and taking a lot of photos!

Weekend Stag and Doe Activities

These Stag and Doe activities are best for a getaway a few weeks or months in advance of the wedding.

Resort Chairs by the pool
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All-inclusive resort

Want to have a glamorous pool party? Book a weekend at an all-inclusive resort for sunshine and swimming. Bring your favorite float and your sunglasses!

Beach weekend

Rent a beach house and have some fun in the sand and sun! Don’t forget to pack frisbees, a volleyball, an umbrella, and lots of sunscreen. 

Cabin or camping

For outdoor activity lovers, what better way to enjoy nature than with camping? Rent a cabin or book space at a campground and enjoy time together. You can hike, have a responsible camp fire with s’mores, popcorn, hot dogs, and stargazing.

Adult summer camp

Get in touch with your inner child or take a trip down memory lane by spending the weekend with all of your friends at “adult summer camp.” Talk about nostalgia and feeling free again! 

Wine country weekend

For wine lovers, spend a weekend in wine country–either Napa or the central coast of California and spend days leisurely wandering through beautiful vineyards, sipping wine and enjoying some sunshine. 


So, before you skip your bachelor or bachelorette party, consider doing things a little differently with a Stag and Doe party for both of you. You’ll make new memories with all of your friends, and your wedding day will be even more special now that all your favorite people know each other, too. 

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